Love's Labour Lost...

“The worst situation in love is when you fall in love with someone who doesn’t know you exist."

I have been writing a bit too much on love because I am trying to understand the intricacies involved. Why isn't everyone successful in love and why do break-ups occur in relationships? I don't know the answers to these. First things first... The world doesn't recognize silent lovers. Obviously, how can it when it doesn't know the person? So those people get lost somewhere in the pages of history. And there are indeed many lovers who succumb to there shy nature and in spite of the fact that their love is true and they could have made a great partner, have a sad and disappointing ending to their love life. But let’s spare a thought for those who keep the flame of their love alive even after knowing that the very person they are so much in love with is not aware of his existence. Sounds much like a movie script but then aren't movies based on real life incidents? The problem with people is that everyone falls in love at some point of time but few really understand the meaning. Love is not a business deal where you expect the other one to reciprocate. Love is more of a feeling where you care for the other one irrespective of what the other one feels. There is no such thing called revenge or domination in love and ego is one of the biggest spoilers in love. Whatever attitudes might be propagated by movies, I personally feel that love is so pure and innocent that the only thing you care for is that your partner is never hurt. Hence things like going against family and forgetting your close ones is never advocated by love. In fact love is such a feeling you start seeing the good things in life and try to balance everything in life. Lastly a word for the persons who have sacrificed in love - they are the ones who have understood the depth of love. They have given more importance to their partner's feelings and happiness. So it doesn't really matter to them if we call their cases as love's labour lost...

Down With Love...

This piece of wisdom coming from the same person who had baffled you all with " The Magic of Love or is it?” might be a shocker for you but this means two things. Either this blogger has been metamorphosised by time or he has caught the bug. It's for you to guess but the views represented below are an extension of what I had earlier ascertained.

"The Magic of Love or is it?" doesn't end there, it just claims to highlight 'a good thing gone wrong' notion about love. I have just remarked at how people forget their priorities while placing all their attention on the bliss of love. Love isn't bad or forbidden; it’s just that there is a line that should not be crossed. Love is not about just being together, it’s about understanding each other. True love has such enormous power that both opposites and like minded people gel together. In love, physical closeness or distance is of least importance. No matter where are you, love binds you both together. As people refer to courage and fear as its all in the mind, I would say with reference to love that it’s all in the heart. Love for me is not just a moment of excitement but a long lasting feeling of togetherness. But what I find toughest in love is conveying the other that you love her. It is extremely tough at least for a shy person like me. May be this has been the reason why I have been unsuccessful in love and may be myself being a bit too choosy also has its percussions on it. Well whatever the case may be I strongly believe that keeping the relationship alive is as important as making sure there is one. Well then love is such a beautiful feeling you never know when you are down with love...

And I Chose Family...

It didn't take me much time to come to a conclusion. After all, all I needed was to put myself in a crunch situation where I have to choose either my career or my family. And I found that however important be my career to me I will always return back to my family. No doubts about that. And do I have any regrets. I may have some ... but those are nothing in front of the happiness that I derive from my family - however small and irrelevant they may be. I personally believe if one can not contribute towards the well being of his family, he can never contribute towards the upliftment and advancement of mankind as a whole. Career is important to me and I know that I am here for fulfilling something great but I won't be able to achieve it without the support of my family and the love of my dear ones. May be it was just an identity crisis that forced me ask this trivial question but nevertheless I was able to understand myself better and regain my self-respect. The only thing that hurts me is that I had to ponder over it for such a long time inspite of the fact that the answer lay so close to my heart.

When Priorities Collide ...

"In the battle of priorities/choices, it is always you who loses."

Among the many dilemmas that man faces, one is the age long battle of priorities between family and career. Two highly important facets of human life and always at loggerheads with each other. Since both require absolute dedication it is difficult to divide time between the two. What makes it much more difficult is that both of these are two of the most important components of one's life. Now lets judge the either side’s arguments.

Family should be the obvious choice for it is where you are supposed to return back. While career can provide you with fame and other materialistic goodies, it can never bring you the pure happiness that your family gives you. However rich or famous may you be, at the end of the day it is always the family you turn towards in search of untampered love and care. Moreover it is one's duty to repay back to your family all that has been done for you. And overlooking your family for your career is utter betrayal.

Career ought to be the obvious choice. Something else comes before your family, that is the mankind. All of us have some responsibilities towards mankind. We need to devote ourselves to our work so that we can be responsible for the advancements of tomorrow that would make life easier for the generations to come. And family is a major hindrance towards such devotion because it prevents you from taking risks - which is the basis of all great achievements.

However you might argue, it is very difficult to choose one of the two. Take the case of most of the great people in history, their private lives had been highly unsuccessful. And people who have had very good personal lives have rarely contributed to the mankind. Whatever you may choose (because you have to one day), ultimately you will be the loser because you will have to give up one thing or the other.