"Whom would you choose in love? The person you love or the one who loves you"
Well its been a long time since I last blogged. My mood swings really prevent me from doing certain things I would like to. Most of the time in between this and the previous post was spent initiating my B.Tech project, quizzes and chilling out... During this time a lot of incidents happened that I would have loved to pen down but couldn't. And the topic I choose now, goes against one of the promises I had made earlier that I would never ever write about love again in this blog. But still I decided to carry on. Last Sunday I happened to be browsing through the channels of my idiot box at home and was surprised to find a National Award winning Tamil Movie 'Iyarkai' starring Shaam,Kutti Radhika and Arun Kumar on the antique Doordarshan in the late night(thanks to the subtitles that helped me understand the movie). The story revolves around an innocent Christian girl Nancy(Kutti Radhika) who is waiting for the return of her so called lover who happens to be a Merchant Ship Captain Mukundan(Arun Kumar) for the past three years. While the young girl had been trully smitten by the captain and had insisted not to part with her lover, the captain, on the other side, was a practical fellow who had taken the actions of Nancy as more of an infatuation and had also warned her about it and after repeated requests promised that he would return within a year. As a symbol of love, he had given her a ring and told that if she hadn't found someone else before his return then he would marry her and this would be their wedding ring. But he doesn't return for around 3 years. In the meantime another ship comes into the port town bringing with it a mechanic Marudhu(Shaam) who happens to have taken more than just an interest in Nancy. The two become good friends as Marudhu offers to help Nancy find out the whereabouts of that captain whose name is even unknown to the gullible young girl but when Marudhu expresses his feelings for her, their relationship is blemished as she is not ready to accept anyone else but the captain. As the story progresses Marudhu keeps on trying to force Nancy to forget Mukundan and accept him for which he is even ready to give his life. One day they find out that the captain went missing in a ship tragedy. In the end its time for Marudhu to leave and before that he asks Nancy to select a chit containing either his or captain's name so that he could find out what God's plans are. And he says that this decision could be reversed by only Nancy's decision who upon pressure from family and friends chooses him. However when the wedding is supposed to take place on a Christmas evening, amidst the celebrations the Captain returns. In that moment of happiness everyone rejoices at his return and forgets about Marudhu. Understanding that Nancy had never loved him and had just compromised under pressure, he leaves the town quietly as in the backdrop there are celebrations for the captain and Nancy.
Anyone who watches the movie would really pour his heart out for the unfortunate Marudhu whose love goes in vain and is never reciprocated. But upon sincere analysis, even I found that the ending was justified. Since it was Marudhu who had been madly after Nancy all this time in spite of Nancy having always made it clear that she didn't love him. Moreover would he have been happy in his life with Nancy as she would never have been able to forget the captain, her true and first love. Though I am unaware of the fact whether you fall in love only once in your life or there can be more instances, one thing's for sure she would have felt compelled to be with him just because he had helped her. Moreover there is one thing we tend to forget regarding the captain. Had he not been of a good character, he would not have returned back that too after three years. And he indeed loved this girl, hence he kept his promise. Moreover if Nancy had chosen Marudhu over Mukundan then her three year's wait would have gone fruitless.Whatever may be the case, there is no denying the fact that destiny has a great control over our lives and we are waging an unrelentless war against it trying to achieve what we want while fate intervenes making us get whatever is destined for us. As in this case, the chit contained the name of the captain, although only the father at the church knew about it and it was destiny that rescued Mukundan from the clutches of death because he had to keep his promise. Although this was just another highly complicated love triangle, the real life Nancy would have had a very
difficult job at hand, since both the men had become part of life and giving either would have meant losing a part of her.
Coming back to the question I asked at the starting of this writeup. Personally I would choose the person I love because she is the only one whose love I can honestly reciprocate. Love doesn't have any logic so don't go searching around for reasons as to why you love someone because if you find the reason then its not love. Love understands only the language of love and sacrifice and there is no space for things like compromise, debt etc. Love cannot be forced onto, as Marudhu tried,its borne with time and affection. Definitely you can't buy me love, its not for sale... its only for offer from the innermost cores of your lover's heart, free of cost.
P.S. : Can't Buy Me Love is a famous hit track by the Beatles written by Paul McCartney as well as a famous teen hollywood movie starring Amanda Petersen and Patrick Dempsey.
